Does This Make Me Look Fat?

How many times have you stood in front of the mirror and asked yourself, “Does this make me look fat?”    Have you asked your significant other this question  too many times? 

 I suggest you stop torturing yourself and others by asking a different question and start to look at yourself in a new way.  Ask instead  ” Where does my eye go first?”   This is called a focus point.   This is the place people look at first and the place their eye will be drawn back to.  

When I first became a personal image consultant I took a woman client  shopping who  was very short and about 100 pounds overweight.   She put on a navy pant outfit that looked really nice on her.   I commented, “: You look thin in that outfit.”  She responded,  “At this weight, I will never look thin, no matter what I put on.”  She was right.  What I should have said was, “The outfit is flattering.”   The color and style of the pant suit caused me to look at her face first.  I did look at her body, but the neckline and color of the outfit kept drawing me back to her face.  The outfit skimmed over her bumps and bulges and as a result my eyes did not stop at her body parts but instead went back to her face.

   Where do your eyes go when a  woman has a very low neckline and the top of her breasts are showing?      When  you are talking to someone and they have a piece of spinach in their teeth, where do your eyes go?  These are examples of  focus points.  Where do you want your focus point to be?  If you want to look your most confident and competent, you will want your face and eyes to be your focus points.

Here are 4 easy steps  to  determine where your focus  points are :

1. Stand 5 feet from a full length mirror

2. Make sure you have good lighting, either daylight or full spectrum bulbs

3. Close your eyes and quickly open them.

4. Ask yourself, “Where  does my eye go first?”

If your eye goes to your face  first or to your face and the color you are wearing simultaniously  and your  eyes sparkle and your skin looks radiant this means you are wearing a flattering color and  probably a good neckline shape.     Avoid clothing that is too tight,  because not only will you be uncomfortable but the horizontal creases will cause the tight places to become focus points.   You can change your focus points by changing how high or low your neckline is, by adding a scarf or pin and by adding earrings, changing the length of your hair and by repeating colors.

Nancy Goldblatt, “Wardrobe Wizard of Baltimore, ” is a professionally trained personal image consultant.  Contact her at    nrgoldblatt@gmail.com www.WardrobeWiz.com/