self esteem

Nothing to Wear Panic When You Are Getting Ready to Go Out

March 31, 2014 by Nancy Goldblatt Leave a Comment

What happens when you get invited to a special event?

After you get all “dolled up,” do you look in the mirror and realize you look awful?

Does your outfit cling to your body revealing every bulge?
Do you look tired, old or washed out?
Maybe you don’t know what’s wrong.

But you feel, you look bad.

If you leave your home looking like this, everyone will think,

“That poor woman, is over the hill.”

Will they

Feel sorry for you…

Talk about you…

or

Avoid you…

You say to yourself…

**“I must find something else to wear.”**

You go to your closet and begin desperately searching.
Before you know it, you have pulled out more than half the clothes in your closet.
Clothes are piled everywhere and now you are running late.
Still you haven’t found the right outfit to wear.

Your heart starts beating faster and you are perspiring profusely as your panic builds.

If you have straight hair it’s hanging limp and wet.
If you have curly hair, it has frizzed up into a wild mass, from perspiration.

Your carefully made up face, is now red and blotchy and your makeup has melted away.

You are a wild woman, as you vainly pull more and more pieces of clothing out of your closet and drawers.

The friend waiting for you outside in the car has begun to impatiently honk the horn.

Or the phone is ringing and the hostess is asking,

“What’s going on, why aren’t you here yet?”

You are in fight or flight mode and can’t talk.

You think to yourself,

”I must find something to wear fast.”

Do you put on that original outfit again and force yourself to leave the house?

Will you hide in a corner, hoping others don’t notice that you are looking fat or frumpy?

Because this has happened before, you know you will be miserable, if you don’t find something to wear that makes you look and feel good.

Do you give up in disgust and call the hostess and say,

“I’m too sick to attend.”

Now you really do feel sick, as your heart beats faster, panic is racing through your body and you can’t stop perspiring.

Maybe your problem isn’t a special event

Maybe it’s facing your closet everyday.

Do you dread trying to find something to wear to work?

Because

You have gained weight.
Your shape has changed.
Your “old faithfuls,” are threadbare.
Or you have a closet stuffed with separates but nothing matches.

Is there something you can do to avoid all of this?

You can call in sick, and hide out while you exercise like crazy, lose a few pounds and then spend lots of money on new clothes.

Even with exercise, weight loss, and new clothes, you will face the same problem, if you don’t learn what colors and styles really flatter you.

You can’t depend on the fashion industry for accurate information on how to choose flattering clothes and accessories.

They are not in the business of teaching you how to understand your unique style.

They want to sell you the latest clothes and accessories.

There is a solution

You can learn to be your own Personal Image Consultant.

Imagine…

Having a closet full of mix and match clothes that all look great on you.

Imagine…

Going shopping and knowing what to buy and what to avoid.

This won’t take thousands of dollars or years to do.

You don’t even have to wait till you lose weight to start looking and feeling better.

And you don’t have to buy a whole new wardrobe of clothes.

You can learn to shop your closet and use what you already have.

Are you ready to learn to be your own “Image Consultant,” and say goodbye to the panic of “Nothing to Wear”?

_______________________________________________________

Contact Personal Image Consultant, Nancy Goldblatt, the “Wardrobe Wizard,” for a 20 minute, no obligation, telephone conversation to see if her reasonably priced services are right for you.

During this conversation, besides a needs assessment, she will give you a brief guided imagery test to help you determine your “inner fashion personality.” By learning about your “fashion personality,” you will be able to avoid purchasing styles you don’t feel comfortable in.

This is the first step in becoming your own Personal Image Consultant.

No need to live in Baltimore, Md. Nancy can now do virtual consults online. Set up an appointment for a complimentary telephone consult to find out how this works. Of course, Nancy is still available in-person for women in Baltimore and surrounding areas.

Contact: Nancy@WardrobeWiz.com, 410-513-9496, blog.wardrobewiz.com

__________________________________________________________

Nancy Goldblatt, “The Wardrobe Wizard,” is a “Color 1,” Personal Image Consultant who specializes in working with “women baby-boomers.” whose size and shape has changed and who have too many clothes and “nothing to wear.” After a woman works with “The Wardrobe Wizard,” she will have a wallet of her best colors and styles, and a pared down closet. She will have learned how to mix and match her best looks so she can get dressed “lickety split,” and look great everyday.

“The Wardrobe Wizard,” also works with younger women and is available to work with men. She was trained by Joanna Nicholson, founder of Color 1 Associates an International Image & Style Company and has over 20 years of experience as a Personal Image Consultant.

Contact her at Nancy@wardrobewiz.com or 410-513-9496

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Wonder Why You Feel Self Conscious?

October 12, 2011 by Nancy Goldblatt Leave a Comment

Are you self conscious about your appearance?

Or do you have a friend or relative who is self conscious?

I want to share with you a story and a theory as to why a person might be self conscious.

When I was younger, before I became an Image Consultant, I was dating a guy named George.

I was waiting for George to pick me up. I had a few minutes and I laid down to take a quick nap.

When I woke up I looked in my magnifying mirror to check my makeup.

I was horrified to see the beginnings of a pimple on the end of my nose.

My doorbell rang and I had no time to pop the pimple and camouflage it with makeup.

George greeted me with,

“You look nice tonight.”

“No I don’t, I have a pimple on the end of my nose. “ George squinted at me.

“I can’t see it.”

“Well it’s there, right on the end of my nose.”

George still could not see it.

I admit, that George’s eye sight was not the greatest.

On the other hand, I have eyes like an eagle.

I see every little detail, especially my flaws.

Even as a child, I would notice the smallest flaws in my appearance.

I would also notice when other people looked bad or looked good.

I thought everyone was as visually aware as me.

When I read the book,” How Your Child Is Smart,” by Dawna Markova, I discovered that not everyone is as visually aware as me.

I used to think my self-consciousness was entirely due to my mother being so critical of me.

I now believe my “learning style,” how my brain is wired, was the other contributing factor.

Have you been self-conscious since you were a child?

The way you process information may be the cause.

I will try to explain about learning styles in the next few paragraphs.

We all use our eyes,(visual sense) our bodies (kinesthetic sense) and our voices and ears (auditory senses) to learn.

There are six different learning styles or learning orders according to Dawna Markova, teacher, therapist and author of many books including “Your Child Is Smart.”

The order in which we use our senses determines how we are smartest, what makes us feel balanced and what sense is the slowest to come but most deeply felt.

In her book,”Your Child Is Smart,” Dawna Markova describes these 6 different learning patterns. The difference in learning styles, is the order in which we use our senses.

There is a front or conscious sense (the way we “bite,” into information) and how we are most aware of whats going on outside of us.

The middle or next sense uses the sub-conscious to help us be aware of both inside and outside and sort information.

The third step in processing information into our brains and bodies is called the unconscious or back channel, It is the slowest to come but often the most creative part of us and the most deeply felt.

Two of the six learning patterns begin with the Visual pattern. These are VKA- Visual, Kinesthetic and Auditory and VAK,- Visual Auditory and Kinesthetic.

If you have the VKA or VAK pattern, you will be visually aware, and you are likely to be self-conscious.

When you have this learning style, you feel what you see.

When I got trained as a Color 1, Personal Image Consultant and learned how to use color and proportion to look visually balanced, something amazing happened.

Because of my VKA learning style, and feeling what I see, when I looked in the mirror, and I saw that I was visually balanced, my feelings of self-consciousness began to disappear.

If any of those old negative messages tape recorded in my brain pop up, I take a deep breath and use “positive self talk,” to turn off the messages.

My old self consciousness has been replaced by self-confidence.

Before I knew how to put myself together using color and proportion to look visually pleasing, I felt self-conscious.

Now, because I know I look visually balanced, I can leave the house and not feel self-conscious.

If you are self-conscious about your appearance, especially if you have felt that way since you were young, it’s likely that you are visually smart.

Here are some other indications that you are visually smart.

Do you learn best by reading or watching
Do you feel energized when you write
Are you comfortable with direct and sustained direct eye contact
Do you organize by writing lists?

If are visually aware, you still use your kinesthetic and auditory senses , but in order to process information, you first have to see something or at least visualize it in your imagination.

Does this sound like you?

If you are self-conscious about your appearance, this does not mean you have low self esteem or that you are self-centered. It’s more likely that the self-consciousness comes from the way your brain is wired to process information.

I have talked in past posts about the magic that happened for me when I discovered what colors and styles looked good on me.

You can have this magic too.

The way to overcome self consciousness is to get educated about what looks good on you.

When you learn how to look visually balanced, using flattering colors and styles, you can replace self consciousness with self confidence.

Want to know what your learning style is?

Get “Your Child Is Smart,” by Dawna Markova or go to her website,www.Smartwired.org.

The website is targeted towards parents who want to understand their children.

If you want to understand your “Inner Child,” I highly recommend ,” Your Child Is Smart.” I believe this was Dawna’s first book. She has written about 6 or 7 books but I found her first book the easiest to understand.

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Think you might be ready to replace self-consciousness with self-confidence? To far away to meet in person?

Call or e-mail to set up a Complimentary 20 minute telephone consult. The telephone consult I am currently offering is FREE, with no obligation, but I only have a few of these slots available each month.

The purpose of the telephone consult is to help you determine what your fashion personality is and to help me better understand what your needs are. Say goodbye to those, “Nothing to wear moments.” I am now doing long distance consultations using the telephone, and digital pictures sent on-line.

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Nancy Goldblatt, “The Wardrobe Wizard,” is a “Color 1,” Personal Image Consultant who specializes in working with mid-life women whose size and shape has changed and who have too many clothes and “nothing to wear.” After a woman works with “The Wardrobe Wizard,”she will have a wallet of her best colors and styles, and a pared down closet. She will learn how to mix and match her best looks so she can get dressed “lickety split,” and look great everyday.

Nancy@WardrobeWiz.com, 410-513-9496, WWW.WardrobeWiz.com

“The Wardrobe Wizard,” also works with younger women and is available to work with men. She was trained by Joanna Nicholson, founder of Color 1 Associates an International Image & Style Company.

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What is your fashion personality? What does that have to do with choice of clothing?

July 4, 2009 by Nancy Goldblatt 17 Comments

Nancy professional picture — Wardrobe Wizard, Nancy Goldblatt, has a “Sporty-Natural, Dramatic, Fashion Personality”

When people ask me how I became an image consultant, I tell them I owe it to my mother.

My mother was a beautiful woman who never felt beautiful. She was critical of herself and of me, her oldest daughter.

My passion for helping clients look good and feel good about themselves comes from my own journey to look and feel good.

My mother thought her nose was too big and she hated her freckled skin.

She envied all of her friends who could lay in the sun till their skin was a leathery brown. I have my father’s small nose and I only have a sprinkling of freckles, so my mother focused on what I wore and my weight. I will talk about my weight in another blog.

When I was 13, my mother encouraged me to wear lipstick and heels and dress more “sophisticated.”

She told me she wanted to make sure I wouldn’t be an “old maid.” My friends were envious and told me how lucky I was. I did not feel fortunate, because even at 13, heels, lipstick and dressing more “sophisticated,” did not represent my” true self. “

Intuitively I knew that if I presented a false self, I would not attract a compatible boyfriend or future husband.

nancy age 13 cropped — Nancy, age 13, just wanted to be comfortable

My mother did not understand that she and I had different fashion personalities and the clothing that was right for her was not right for me.

She was interested in looking ” sophisticated and elegant,” and I was interested in feeling comfortable, “being my self,” and having low maintenance clothing and hair.

I understand now that we had different “fashion personalities,” but at the time I felt angry and hurt that she did not try to understand me.

As a result of her constant criticism, I felt self conscious about my appearance and stayed angry at my mother for a long time. When I became an image consultant and learned my best colors and styles and found out about fashion personality, much of the early damage to my self esteem disappeared.

Did you feel ever feel self conscious or critical about your appearance because of things said to you when you were growing up?

My hope is that after learning about fashion personality you can begin to be less critical of your self, and not so influenced by the fashion industry.

If you have a daughter who dresses in a way you do not approve of, my hope is that after learning about “fashion personality,” you will try to understand that not only is there a generational difference, but her fashion personality may be different from yours.

It will be easier for her to discover her own fashion personality and feel good about her appearance if you can accept her, instead of trying to change her.

One of the first things I do when I work with a client is give the “fashion personality test.” This test is extremely accurate for women but not as accurate for (straight) men. It can be accurate for gay men.

Fashion personality has nothing to do with your height or weight or how long or short your hair is or what colors you wear.

I believe it is “in-born,” like temperament. You may be a combination of two types but one is usually predominant. Here are brief descriptions of the four fashion personality types and photo examples.

Romantic Top from Roman’s catalog	Sporty-Natural Fashion Personality, blouse from Roman’s
Timeless Classic Suit by Anne Klein	Colette has a “Dramatic, Romantic,” fashion personality

Sporty Natural Fashion Personality: You want comfort and ease. You probably don’t like to iron and prefer a very easy to care for hair style. You may not like to get dressed up. Your friends think you wear the same outfit frequently because you end up wearing the same few comfortable things or have the same style in different colors that you wear over and over. Whoppi Goldberg, Ellen De Generes, and Katherine Hepburn all have this fashion personality

Time-less Classic Fashion Personality: You probably like classic styles. You may prefer tailored clothes. Think Ann Taylor and Ann Klein clothing. You don’t waste your money on fads and may be slow to adopt trends . Diane Sawyer and many anchor women have this fashion personality

Romantic Fashion Personality: You probably like some feminine touches in your clothes like soft flowing fabric, maybe a few ruffles, scarves, perfume, maybe long hair or at least some waves or curls,as well as delicate jewelry. Examples of famous people, Jane Seymour, Princess Diana, Grace Kelly,

High Fashion- Dramatic or Creative Fashion Personality: You like to make a statement with your clothing and jewelry. You may like trying different hair styles and colors. You like trying the latest styles and fads. You don’t mind being the center of attention. Cher, Lady Gaga, Elizabeth Taylor, Madonna, and Rhyianna are examples of this personality.

In order to present your most authentic self to the world, I believe it is important to understand and respect your fashion personality. Even if an outfit was a flattering color and fit me, I would still feel uncomfortable if it had ruffles. That’s because ruffles feel too “girly,” romantic on me. I have a “sporty-natural, dramatic.” fashion personality. I am mostly sporty- natural with a little dramatic. I like wearing pieces that breathe, do not need ironing and are super comfortable. I do the dramatic part with big earrings and or a funky lapel pin.

At a recent Wardrobe Wizard presentation one of the participants , a successful woman entrepreneur, wanted to know how she could look more appropriate when she has to go to “dress up affairs.”

I determined she had a “sporty-natural fashion personality.” She loves wearing pants and boots and hates getting dressed up, but she must attend certain important events where she has to look less casual.

I suggested she could do this by wearing a 3 piece pant outfit in a silk or knit fabric all in one color. (When you wear all one color you will always look more elegant and dressed up.) The pants should be soft and flowing with a deep v neck shell and an open jacket.

She could wear simple earrings and comfortable dressy pumps the same color as her hair. If she wanted to look more feminine she could wear a pashmina over her shoulders instead of the jacket. The outfit should be as comfortable for her as pajamas.

It’s important for her to respect her fashion personality because if she were to wear more tailored, high fashion or frilly clothing she would not feel comfortable and would not be at her best.

Joanna Nicholson, “Color 1,’ founder and my teacher, would probably say fashion personality categories are too confining and we can change our looks based on how we are feeling.

I could look a little more romantic, if I put a sheer scarf around my neck, but I would feel very uncomfortable dressed totally in a romantic style.

Think of your fashion personality as a home base where you feel most relaxed and comfortable.

You can leave home for awhile wearing a different style, but eventually you need to return home to your “fashion personality.” to relax and recharge your batteries.

Do you know what your fashion personality is? How has this affected your choice of clothing and accessories? I’d love to hear from you.

Nancy Goldblatt, “The Wardrobe Wizard of Baltimore,” is a Color One Associate. She specializes in working with mid-life women whose size or shape has changed. She has worked over twenty years as a Personal Image Consultant. She is now working with clients all over the world using the telephone and internet. She can be reached at Nancy@wardrdrobewiz.com, website is : www.WardrobeWiz.com

self esteem

What happens when you get invited to a special event?

After you get all “dolled up,” do you look in the mirror and realize you look awful?

Does your outfit cling to your body revealing every bulge?

Do you look tired, old or washed out?

Maybe you don’t know what’s wrong.

But you feel, you look bad.

If you leave your home looking like this, everyone will think,

“That poor woman, is over the hill.”

Will they

Feel sorry for you…

Talk about you…

or

Avoid you…

You say to yourself…

“I must find something else to wear.”

You go to your closet and begin desperately searching.

Before you know it, you have pulled out more than half the clothes in your closet.

Clothes are piled everywhere and now you are running late.

Still you haven’t found the right outfit to wear.

Your heart starts beating faster and you are perspiring profusely as your panic builds.

If you have straight hair it’s hanging limp and wet.

If you have curly hair, it has frizzed up into a wild mass, from perspiration.

Your carefully made up face, is now red and blotchy and your makeup has melted away.

You are a wild woman, as you vainly pull more and more pieces of clothing out of your closet and drawers.

The friend waiting for you outside in the car has begun to impatiently honk the horn.

Or the phone is ringing and the hostess is asking,

“What’s going on, why aren’t you here yet?”

You are in fight or flight mode and can’t talk.

You think to yourself,

”I must find something to wear fast.”

Do you put on that original outfit again and force yourself to leave the house?

Will you hide in a corner, hoping others don’t notice that you are looking fat or frumpy?

Because this has happened before, you know you will be miserable, if you don’t find something to wear that makes you look and feel good.

Do you give up in disgust and call the hostess and say,

“I’m too sick to attend.”

Now you really do feel sick, as your heart beats faster, panic is racing through your body and you can’t stop perspiring.

Maybe your problem isn’t a special event

Maybe it’s facing your closet everyday.

Do you dread trying to find something to wear to work?

Because

You have gained weight.

Your shape has changed.

Your “old faithfuls,” are threadbare.

Or you have a closet stuffed with separates but nothing matches.

Is there something you can do to avoid all of this?

You can call in sick, and hide out while you exercise like crazy, lose a few pounds and then spend lots of money on new clothes.

Even with exercise, weight loss, and new clothes, you will face the same problem, if you don’t learn what colors and styles really flatter you.

You can’t depend on the fashion industry for accurate information on how to choose flattering clothes and accessories.

They are not in the business of teaching you how to understand your unique style.

They want to sell you the latest clothes and accessories.

There is a solution

You can learn to be your own Personal Image Consultant.

Imagine…

Having a closet full of mix and match clothes that all look great on you.

Imagine…

Going shopping and knowing what to buy and what to avoid.

This won’t take thousands of dollars or years to do.

You don’t even have to wait till you lose weight to start looking and feeling better.

And you don’t have to buy a whole new wardrobe of clothes.

You can learn to shop your closet and use what you already have.

Are you ready to learn to be your own “Image Consultant,” and say goodbye to the panic of “Nothing to Wear”?

_______________________________________________________

Contact Personal Image Consultant, Nancy Goldblatt, the “Wardrobe Wizard,” for a 20 minute, no obligation, telephone conversation to see if her reasonably priced services are right for you.

During this conversation, besides a needs assessment, she will give you a brief guided imagery test to help you determine your “inner fashion personality.” By learning about your “fashion personality,” you will be able to avoid purchasing styles you don’t feel comfortable in.

This is the first step in becoming your own Personal Image Consultant.

No need to live in Baltimore, Md. Nancy can now do virtual consults online. Set up an appointment for a complimentary telephone consult to find out how this works. Of course, Nancy is still available in-person for women in Baltimore and surrounding areas.

Contact: Nancy@WardrobeWiz.com, 410-513-9496, blog.wardrobewiz.com

__________________________________________________________

“The Wardrobe Wizard,” also works with younger women and is available to work with men. She was trained by Joanna Nicholson, founder of Color 1 Associates an International Image & Style Company and has over 20 years of experience as a Personal Image Consultant.

Contact her at Nancy@wardrobewiz.com or 410-513-9496

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**“I must find something else to wear.”**